EP 76: The Comparison Comedown - Why Your "Normal" Feels Like a Failure
In this episode, Elex discusses the pervasive issue of comparison and its impact on mental health. She shares personal experiences and insights into how comparison can diminish our happiness and lead to feelings of inadequacy. The conversation delves into the science of dopamine and how it relates to our emotional responses to comparison.
Elex emphasizes the importance of self-regulation over social validation, providing practical tools and strategies for listeners to cultivate mindfulness and appreciate the small wins in life. Ultimately, the episode encourages listeners to embrace their unique journeys and recognize the power of self-acceptance.
Episode Sources:
The Neuroscience of Comparison-
The Guardian / Science Focus (2025): "Why your brain loves to compare itself to others." Breaks down the activation of the anterior cingulate cortex during social media use. Source
Nature Communications (2024): "Dopaminergic dynamics in social reward and comparison." A study on how our "reward" levels drop significantly when we see others achieving more. Source
Post-Event Blues & Psychology-
Psychology Today (2025): "The Post-Vacation Blues: Why it happens and how to fix it." Explores the contrast effect and the emotional regulation required after a "high." Source
Journal of Happiness Studies (2024): "The Impact of Social Media on Life Satisfaction through the Lens of Upward Comparison." Source
Practical Recovery Tools-
The Mel Robbins Podcast (2026): "The 24-Hour Reset Rule for Digital Wellness." A practical framework for protecting your mental health after big events.
Greater Good Science Center (UC Berkeley): "The Science of Savoring." Explains how focusing on small, ordinary pleasures can rewire the brain's reward system. Source
